Hey there mamas,

So I have written about divorce before on the blog, so I thought I would bring in a different perspective than my own. So the wonderful Jane Davies has written a guest post about the right method to divorce, and how to make it easier. Keep on reading if you want to know her secrets!

Making Divorce Easier: The Right Method

No one enters marriage expecting it to end in divorce. However, more than 20 percent of first marriages end in divorce within five years and nearly 48 percent end within twenty years. Divorce is an extremely emotional event, but there are things you can do to make it easier for you and your loved ones.

Cooperation and Communication

The end of a marriage usually sets off emotions such as anger, grief, anxiety, and fear. Sometimes these feelings can arise when you least expect them to, but it’s important to be kind to yourself. Studies show that people who are kind and compassionate to themselves have an easier time dealing with the hardships of divorce.

The Right Method: Divorce is a Stressful Time, But You Can Make it Easier

Try not to think about your breakup as a battle. Divorce mediation can be an appropriate alternative to courtroom proceedings. However, the problems that led to your divorce will often re-emerge during your divorce negotiations. Mediation can also be good for emotional satisfaction and children’s needs.

You might not want to sit down and talk with your soon-to-be-ex, but cooperation and communication make divorce easier and healthier for everyone involved. Additionally, talking with a psychologist may help you reach decisions without conflict.

It can be easy to forget vital details when you’re overwhelmed by emotions. Try to pick a time when you are calm to write down things you want to discuss. Use the list as a guide when you sit down with your soon-to-be-ex. Having this as your guide can take away some of the emotion of communicating in person. If it is too difficult for you to meet in person, perhaps consider having discussions over emails. Lawyers such as those as Harris, Hunt, Derr, P.A. can help you figure out how best to move forward.

Take Care of Yourself

The changes caused by divorce can sometimes be overwhelming. It’s important to remember to take exceptional care of yourself. Reach out and use your support network. Lean on your friends and family for support and comfort. Support groups can also help you deal with the emotions of divorce.

Try to stay positive as you start this new chapter of your life. Try getting involved in activities you used to enjoy but perhaps haven’t done in a while. Maybe even try new hobbies or activities. Stay healthy by eating right and getting exercise.

Find a Psychologist

Divorce can be difficult for the entire family. Divorcing spouses and their children may benefit from talking with a certified psychologist. This can help them deal with their emotions and adjust to all the changes that come with divorce. A psychologist can also help you think about what went wrong in your marriage. This can help you identify negative patterns and prevent them from happening in a future relationship.

There is no denying the hardship that comes with divorce. It can be a mentally and physically draining process. It’s important to remember to take care of yourself. One of the best things you can do for yourself is being kind and compassionate to yourself. Perhaps consider reaching out to a psychologist near you to help get you through the process.

I hope this post has helped you in some way and if it did please share! Also be sure to subscribe for more content for the modern single mom!

Much Love,

JessXO