How To Be A Marvelous Role Model For Your Children

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Howdy mamas!

Once again I’m proud to bring you another awesome collaborative post on a topic that is very important. Being a better role model for our kids is something we all need to work on, so stay with me and feel free to jot these ideas down to better implement them going forward.

How To Be A Marvelous Role Model For Your Children 

As a single parent, you are the number one and sometimes only role model for your child. They, of course, think you are wonderful and idolize you (until they hit puberty that is!)  They will soak up your attitudes, behaviors and views like a sponge. And it’s for this reason we should be very aware of the kind of example we’re setting for our kids, they are observing and learning even the most subtle of our ways. Here are just a few of the ways we can be a good role model and help them to develop healthy and productive behaviors which will be useful to them later in life. 

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Eat Healthily

Kids are generally picky about food, that isn’t new information for anyone who has kids! However they might refuse things now but in time are likely to go on to mirror your behaviour and food habits. Seeing you filling up on healthy, delicious meals and making good choices will eventually become ingrained in them. Don’t make mealtimes feel stressful or chaotic, try them with new ingredients and if they refuse don’t make a huge deal of it. Try it again in a few weeks, kids tastes can change in a very short space of time and even their mood can determine how open they are to tasting new things. Getting kids involved in the kitchen is a good way to encourage healthy eating and if they’ve helped to make it they’re more likely to try it.

 

Be Financially Savvy

Having kids is expensive, and being a single mom does not make it any easier, so getting yourself into the best position financially is always worthwhile. You could look into how to consolidate debt, how to boost your savings and how to budget better to get yourself on track. When you have your money in order you’ll be far less stressed from scrimping and saving and trying to make ends meet. Teach children the value of money, instead of giving them pocket money let them earn it. Simple chores such as tidying their room, feeding a pet or loading the dishwasher will make them feel as though they’ve made an effort for it which can make them think more carefully before spending. It also teaches children the old adage ‘money doesn’t grow on trees’, when they ask for things they can appreciate that work has been put in to earn it.

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Read Books For Fun

Children reading books can improve language, develop empathy, enhance concentration, teaches them about a range of topics and can encourage a thirst for knowledge. It’s far more beneficial than playing computer games or watching tv, and so anything that gives them an interest in books and learning is a wonderful thing. Let them see how reading can be for fun and not just something they ‘have’ to do for school. Reading is great for adults too, it provides a fun escape, helps your memory and lots of other great psychological benefits. Read books for your own wellbeing, in doing so you show children that this is a great way to spend your free time. And of course, read with your children too.

 

Be Social

Haha, say what? Yeah, I know…but listen. There’s nothing wrong with being introverted, I am a very socially awkward introvert so this idea is terrifying. However, there are a lot of benefits that come from being confident and sociable. It makes it easier for children to develop friendships, express themselves and not be held back by insecurity. Take your children to groups and activities where you can both socialize with other children and adults. If they see you treating people respectfully and with manners, it’s a good way to encourage them to do the same. Introverted mamas unite! 

Are you ready to take on the world ahead as a more confident single mom? I sure hope so. Go be the best role model you can possibly be. Your kiddos will (hopefully) thank you later in life.  Give this post a like, comment & share!

A collaboration 🙂

Much love, peace out.

JessXO

Wonderful Bedroom Decor Ideas For Kids

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Hello mamas!

Today I wanted to bring you a treat for the kiddos, they deserve some love too! So read on for some wonderful bedroom decor ideas!

Wonderful Bedroom Decor Ideas For Kids 

One of the responsibilities of motherhood is looking after our children. Whether it’s nursing them back to good health when they’re ill or surprising them on Christmas day with the toy they’ve been nagging you about for the past few months, we give a lot to our children in order to make them happy and fit for the world.

If you’ve been meaning to treat your child for a while, then giving them a bedroom makeover can transform their New Year and give them something to remember for the rest of 2018. To help you out, I’ve put together a list of wonderful bedroom decor ideas so that you can impress your child and give them a motivational boost to work hard and grow this year.

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Step One: Research

Decor ideas will, of course, change depending on your child’s interests and their age. If they’re still young then they probably won’t care much for superheroes and dolls, but if they’re a little older (early teens) then they’re going to start asking for more privacy and you could give it to them with some light bedroom renovations or decor changes. If you want to treat your children, then you need to learn what their interests are. This should be relatively easy but it doesn’t hurt to ask them who their favorite cartoon characters are or what their favorite color is. As their mom who should already know these basics, but it’s a good idea to ask anyway to see if anything has changed. Kids do change their minds a lot!

If you’d prefer not to sneak around and do this as a surprise, then work together with your child to plan the ultimate bedroom renovation for them. Get a scrapbook (a digital or physical one, both work) and start compiling some ideas to help your child get the bedroom of their dreams.

 

Multifunctional Everything

Making the most of a child’s bedroom will occasionally involve multifunctional furniture. Whether it’s treehouse beds, a nested desk or even a transformable shelf, having multifunctional furniture can be both fun, interesting and space-saving. Just be careful of certain types of multifunctional furniture with hinges that could hurt your child if they aren’t being supervised.

 

Make the Walls Stand Out

Whether it’s wallpaper of their favorite color or cartoon characters or a simple and plain color that they can paint or draw on, like say chalk paint, making the walls stand out should be one of the first things you think about. While it can get messy, giving your child a rather blank design for their wallpaper could give them endless creative pleasure since it means they can paint, draw or put stickers on their wall. If you’d prefer not to get into such a mess, then getting a colorful wallpaper will do the trick.

 

Bed Linen Designs

Make bedtime special by replacing the linens on your child’s bed with something a bit more colorful, unique or closer to their interests. Some children want to sleep in superhero pajamas while others are fine getting to bed with a cartoon pillow. My son loves his Spiderman bed set! In addition to just changing the linen, you could also add a couple of plush toys if your child enjoys them.

 

A New Desk

Have a creative child or a young teenager that loves to use computers? Get them their own desk to make them feel a lot more “professional” and “grown-up” like the adults. You’ll need to get a table that is suitable for their size, but you could invest in an adjustable children’s table so it grows with them. Designing a bedroom that grows with your child can be difficult, but it’s all about having furniture that will scale to their needs as they get bigger. It takes a bit of planning and perhaps more money, but it’s worth it because you won’t need to replace furniture as they outgrow it. Since we homeschool, I am hoping to bring a desk into my son’s room when he’s a little older so he will have his own place to do his school work once he’s ready to do things on his own. 

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Storage for Everything

Storage, storage, storage! Your children are going to accumulate plenty of things in the future. Whether it’s toys, books, memorabilia or games, they’ll need plenty of storage to keep their things. While it’s a good idea to teach your child how to be frugal and live with less, we can’t strip children of their desires to own lots of toys and have lots of things to entertain themselves, to make sure you invest in storage that allows them to hold on to everything that’s precious to them. A basic shelf can work, but hidden storage under the bed or in seating can add lots of “secret” furniture where they can store special items. Just remember not to install too many wall shelves until they’re old enough to reach them because it could cause accidents.

I hope these have sparked some ideas that will help you design the most epic room for your kiddos! I’m sure they will love and appreciate it, have fun & get busy being your own Joanna Gaines of kid’s rooms! 🙂

A collaboration

Love, Jess XO

Single Mom Instagram Accounts You Need To Be Following

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Hey mamas!

So this week on the blog I wanted to give shoutouts to my top single mom Instagram accounts that I think you need to be following! These ladies are rockstars and as my main goal for my blog is to bring you all support, advice, and fun  I thought this would be a great way to share some of the places I find this for myself. So without further ado…

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@daisharenee_blogs

This chick is a pretty awesome single mama who blogs and rocks it as a mompreneur. I love the simplicity and everyday aspect of her content, there is just something so refreshing about her account. Plus she has a really amazing blog! Give her a follow by clicking here

@single.mom.life

Ok now, this is probably one of the best single mom-centered online accounts I have yet to come across! There is no lack of realism, support or faith to be found on single.mom.life. I absolutely love the content shared here and a huge bonus is the mama behind it has her own radio show! You will fall in love with this account, to follow go here 

@esilejoy

This beautiful mama has a really fun account and I love her content! She’s a gamer and single mom who co-hosts her own gaming show and shares some really great stuff! I only just discovered her and am super impressed! she’s a must follow for sure! Find her here

@peacefulangstymama

This single mom has an anxiety and personal strength centered account which I adore! This mom of 2 motivates and inspires others who may be struggling in areas of anxiousness and her content is just so fantastic! I highly suggest giving her a follow! Follow along with Jennifer here

@angelathomasphoto

Last but certainly not least is Angela, who is her own words is an “all around badass” She is a photographer, single mom and more and she totally rocks it! I have loved looking through her content and am thrilled to see such an incredible single mom thriving! Her young, fun and hip account is sure to brighten up your day! Give this mama a follow here

Oh, but wait! Don’t forget me!

@JesseJaneVA10

If you are not already following me on Instagram, then what are you waiting for? Give me a follow and show your support to me and all these other totally tubular mamas! You can find me here

Thank you so much, I hope you love all the new content in your Instagram feed!

Until next time,

Love Jess, XO

 

Why Single Parenting Is Never Wrong

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Hey there, I’m about to ruffle a few feathers, so hang tight.

I am here to tell you why single parenting is never wrong…

Ok guys….I’ve been very upset lately because I have been hearing and reading a lot about how so many people have negative views and opinions on single parenting and I have had enough!  As a single mom, I am very offended by people always criticizing me on raising my son on my own. I’ve heard everything from it isn’t right, it’s not good for the child, it’s emotionally unstable blah blah blah! I’m so sick of it.  It’s all a bunch of bunk.

These people have never had to be single parents so they don’t have a clue or any right to say the things they say. They may throw statistics or so-called “science” out there to try and convince you that raising a child without a father, or in some cases, a mother is wrong and bad for the child. Well, let me tell you something. When you are a single parent, by circumstances or by choice, it is never wrong. How could it be? We are more than capable of raising children without the help of another parent.  Millions of parents do it just fine and we don’t need a bunch of stuck up, critical and judgemental creeps telling us that loving our children and doing our best for them is wrong.

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Being  deeply upset by this issue  I can no longer hold my tongue, (or fingers, in this case. ) I have chosen to work from home, so I can be with my son all the time. Since I am his only parent I feel that it is right to make myself more available for him and to be present with him all day. I know that he needs me, and he has not missed not having another parent around. I am more than enough for him.  I homeschool him, I take him to basketball practice and cheer from the stands, I do art projects and play legos with him, we have movie nights and heart to heart talks. I answer all of his life questions and explain things he needs to understand, we read books, say our prayers and I tuck him into bed each night as he drifts off to sleep with such a peaceful expression. So tell me, how is that wrong exactly?  My son is happy, well adjusted and does just fine without a father. He came into the world in that cold delivery room to just me, all he ever needed was just me and all he will ever need is just me. I have enough love, time, dedication and strength to be enough for him as he grows up and I believe the same for all single parents.

We know our children, and if we feel that something is missing from their lives or they express to us that they need something then we will fulfill their needs to the best of our abilities and make sure that they know how much they are loved. If they ever need more, then we will do our best to give it to them. Your statics may be accurate for some, but not all and in the end, it’s more about the child’s own choices in life and less about how they were raised that determines their behavior. At least that’s my opinion. Take a look at this article published on The Huffington Post, it’s a great read! 5 Reasons It’s Better To Be A Single Parent

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I know I’ve gotten a little intense in this post, but this issue just makes my blood boil. When it comes down to it, God gave us our children. He chose us to be our children’s parents and God doesn’t make mistakes. We can only do our best, and our best will always be good enough. I may want a father for my son, but I certainly don’t need one, and neither does he. He has told me so and I take his word for it.  As single parents, we are stronger, tougher, and full of more love. Nothing wrong with that!

Please like, share and leave me a comment! You guys rock!

Love & Laughter,

Jess XO