How To Be A Marvelous Role Model For Your Children

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Howdy mamas!

Once again I’m proud to bring you another awesome collaborative post on a topic that is very important. Being a better role model for our kids is something we all need to work on, so stay with me and feel free to jot these ideas down to better implement them going forward.

How To Be A Marvelous Role Model For Your Children 

As a single parent, you are the number one and sometimes only role model for your child. They, of course, think you are wonderful and idolize you (until they hit puberty that is!)  They will soak up your attitudes, behaviors and views like a sponge. And it’s for this reason we should be very aware of the kind of example we’re setting for our kids, they are observing and learning even the most subtle of our ways. Here are just a few of the ways we can be a good role model and help them to develop healthy and productive behaviors which will be useful to them later in life. 

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Eat Healthily

Kids are generally picky about food, that isn’t new information for anyone who has kids! However they might refuse things now but in time are likely to go on to mirror your behaviour and food habits. Seeing you filling up on healthy, delicious meals and making good choices will eventually become ingrained in them. Don’t make mealtimes feel stressful or chaotic, try them with new ingredients and if they refuse don’t make a huge deal of it. Try it again in a few weeks, kids tastes can change in a very short space of time and even their mood can determine how open they are to tasting new things. Getting kids involved in the kitchen is a good way to encourage healthy eating and if they’ve helped to make it they’re more likely to try it.

 

Be Financially Savvy

Having kids is expensive, and being a single mom does not make it any easier, so getting yourself into the best position financially is always worthwhile. You could look into how to consolidate debt, how to boost your savings and how to budget better to get yourself on track. When you have your money in order you’ll be far less stressed from scrimping and saving and trying to make ends meet. Teach children the value of money, instead of giving them pocket money let them earn it. Simple chores such as tidying their room, feeding a pet or loading the dishwasher will make them feel as though they’ve made an effort for it which can make them think more carefully before spending. It also teaches children the old adage ‘money doesn’t grow on trees’, when they ask for things they can appreciate that work has been put in to earn it.

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Read Books For Fun

Children reading books can improve language, develop empathy, enhance concentration, teaches them about a range of topics and can encourage a thirst for knowledge. It’s far more beneficial than playing computer games or watching tv, and so anything that gives them an interest in books and learning is a wonderful thing. Let them see how reading can be for fun and not just something they ‘have’ to do for school. Reading is great for adults too, it provides a fun escape, helps your memory and lots of other great psychological benefits. Read books for your own wellbeing, in doing so you show children that this is a great way to spend your free time. And of course, read with your children too.

 

Be Social

Haha, say what? Yeah, I know…but listen. There’s nothing wrong with being introverted, I am a very socially awkward introvert so this idea is terrifying. However, there are a lot of benefits that come from being confident and sociable. It makes it easier for children to develop friendships, express themselves and not be held back by insecurity. Take your children to groups and activities where you can both socialize with other children and adults. If they see you treating people respectfully and with manners, it’s a good way to encourage them to do the same. Introverted mamas unite! 

Are you ready to take on the world ahead as a more confident single mom? I sure hope so. Go be the best role model you can possibly be. Your kiddos will (hopefully) thank you later in life.  Give this post a like, comment & share!

A collaboration 🙂

Much love, peace out.

JessXO

Wonderful Bedroom Decor Ideas For Kids

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Hello mamas!

Today I wanted to bring you a treat for the kiddos, they deserve some love too! So read on for some wonderful bedroom decor ideas!

Wonderful Bedroom Decor Ideas For Kids 

One of the responsibilities of motherhood is looking after our children. Whether it’s nursing them back to good health when they’re ill or surprising them on Christmas day with the toy they’ve been nagging you about for the past few months, we give a lot to our children in order to make them happy and fit for the world.

If you’ve been meaning to treat your child for a while, then giving them a bedroom makeover can transform their New Year and give them something to remember for the rest of 2018. To help you out, I’ve put together a list of wonderful bedroom decor ideas so that you can impress your child and give them a motivational boost to work hard and grow this year.

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Step One: Research

Decor ideas will, of course, change depending on your child’s interests and their age. If they’re still young then they probably won’t care much for superheroes and dolls, but if they’re a little older (early teens) then they’re going to start asking for more privacy and you could give it to them with some light bedroom renovations or decor changes. If you want to treat your children, then you need to learn what their interests are. This should be relatively easy but it doesn’t hurt to ask them who their favorite cartoon characters are or what their favorite color is. As their mom who should already know these basics, but it’s a good idea to ask anyway to see if anything has changed. Kids do change their minds a lot!

If you’d prefer not to sneak around and do this as a surprise, then work together with your child to plan the ultimate bedroom renovation for them. Get a scrapbook (a digital or physical one, both work) and start compiling some ideas to help your child get the bedroom of their dreams.

 

Multifunctional Everything

Making the most of a child’s bedroom will occasionally involve multifunctional furniture. Whether it’s treehouse beds, a nested desk or even a transformable shelf, having multifunctional furniture can be both fun, interesting and space-saving. Just be careful of certain types of multifunctional furniture with hinges that could hurt your child if they aren’t being supervised.

 

Make the Walls Stand Out

Whether it’s wallpaper of their favorite color or cartoon characters or a simple and plain color that they can paint or draw on, like say chalk paint, making the walls stand out should be one of the first things you think about. While it can get messy, giving your child a rather blank design for their wallpaper could give them endless creative pleasure since it means they can paint, draw or put stickers on their wall. If you’d prefer not to get into such a mess, then getting a colorful wallpaper will do the trick.

 

Bed Linen Designs

Make bedtime special by replacing the linens on your child’s bed with something a bit more colorful, unique or closer to their interests. Some children want to sleep in superhero pajamas while others are fine getting to bed with a cartoon pillow. My son loves his Spiderman bed set! In addition to just changing the linen, you could also add a couple of plush toys if your child enjoys them.

 

A New Desk

Have a creative child or a young teenager that loves to use computers? Get them their own desk to make them feel a lot more “professional” and “grown-up” like the adults. You’ll need to get a table that is suitable for their size, but you could invest in an adjustable children’s table so it grows with them. Designing a bedroom that grows with your child can be difficult, but it’s all about having furniture that will scale to their needs as they get bigger. It takes a bit of planning and perhaps more money, but it’s worth it because you won’t need to replace furniture as they outgrow it. Since we homeschool, I am hoping to bring a desk into my son’s room when he’s a little older so he will have his own place to do his school work once he’s ready to do things on his own. 

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Storage for Everything

Storage, storage, storage! Your children are going to accumulate plenty of things in the future. Whether it’s toys, books, memorabilia or games, they’ll need plenty of storage to keep their things. While it’s a good idea to teach your child how to be frugal and live with less, we can’t strip children of their desires to own lots of toys and have lots of things to entertain themselves, to make sure you invest in storage that allows them to hold on to everything that’s precious to them. A basic shelf can work, but hidden storage under the bed or in seating can add lots of “secret” furniture where they can store special items. Just remember not to install too many wall shelves until they’re old enough to reach them because it could cause accidents.

I hope these have sparked some ideas that will help you design the most epic room for your kiddos! I’m sure they will love and appreciate it, have fun & get busy being your own Joanna Gaines of kid’s rooms! 🙂

A collaboration

Love, Jess XO

Money Habits To Make Your 2018 Sparkle

Hey, there sexy mamas!

Hope the New Year is treating you well so far! To help usher us into a what will hopefully be a fantastic year, I wanted to bring you some tips on money habits to make your 2018 sparkle! Read on for some kick-booty advice on slaying your finances this year!

Money Habits To Make Your 2018 Sparkle

Could your year have gone better financially? If 2017 was characterized by poor money decisions, having to carefully budget and worry about unexpected expenses, then there are ways to look forward to a much brighter future in 2018. It starts with a few simple steps, such as consolidating any debt and trimming your outgoings. This should leave you with more of a cushion to cover anything you didn’t budget for. Here’s how…

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Check Your Utilities

It doesn’t pay to be loyal when it comes to your gas, electricity and other bills such as broadband. Despite the huge array of comparison sites out there, many of us still aren’t taking ten minutes to make sure we’re getting the best deal. Your circumstances will change over time, so the tariff that is best for you will also change. You could save up to $300 a year just for a quick check! The onus is firmly on providers to make it easy to switch so there shouldn’t be much hassle for you as a customer. Save those dollars where you can! 

Pay Down Your Debt

Wouldn’t it be amazing to wake up one day completely debt free? While this is a completely achievable reality, you have to be smart about your borrowing. Many people just let their repayments tick along. What you actually need to be doing to make inroads in the amount you owe is proactively managing the situation. Consider finding a debt consolidation loan through a service like Evolution Money. That way you can reduce multiple payments into one monthly amount. If you have credit cards, try transferring the balance onto a card with an interest free period to then pay it off in the timeframe.

Seek Out Cashback

If you’re planning any big purchases this year, then make sure you go through a cashback website like Ebates. I personally use and love this site, it’s only an extra click when you’re shopping online and boom! Automatic cash back! You’ll get a percentage of what you pay back – and when it’s a larger purchase, like white goods, this is well worth doing. You can even earn cash back for purchases made via your mobile phone using their app. 

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Set a No Spend Zone

You may be in the habit of small, daily purchases. They don’t cost much individually, but add them up over the course of a year and they can make a significant dent in your budget. Often these habits don’t really bring us happiness. So one trick to to set a ‘no spend week’ or even just a ‘day’ in the month where you don’t spend any money at all. Prep your lunch in advance if you work out of the home and bring a coffee your own coffee travel mug. Leave your debit card and any cash in a drawer. You may be surprised how effective this is at breaking a pattern of mindless spending.

Waste Less Food

Food waste is a huge environmental problem, and it’s also an issue for our wallets with the cost of the weekly shop rising all the time. But we can get better at correctly estimating portion sizes and find creative recipes for leftovers. Finding out information on how to correctly store food and using our freezer more can also help. Love Food Hate Waste is a great place to start.

If you want to do something for your family that could also help boost your financial standing, check out my post on owning stock with Stockpile!

I know as single moms it can be a serious challenge to save money and get finances in order, so I hope these tips will help you get on track and make 2018 your richest year yet! 😉

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Love always,

JessXO

 

Self Confidence For The Single Mom

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Happy New Year Mamas!

The start of the new year is right around the corner and with that for most brings a lot of looking at your life, resolutions, new goals, and self-confidence issues. So today I am hoping to help boost all of these areas for you! Keep on reading to see my best advice for self-confidence for the single mom!

Reflection & Looking Ahead

Pretty much everyone takes a look back on the last year of their life and a glimpse of hope for the next year on New Years. It’s a time to really think about what you’ve accomplished, or not accomplished and what you can do better going into the new year. As single moms, sometimes it’s hard to not have those negative thoughts about we failed ourselves, our kids and just didn’t do everything we feel like we should have. But you know what? None of that is true!

You are a smart, strong, hard-working mama who absolutely did her best and in no way failed anyone.  Do not look back on this last year with disappointment in yourself. You did all you could, and you rocked it! Do look ahead with hope and excitement, because this year will be even better. You can only go up from here, claim it and believe it! Let’s all move forward ready to take on 2018.

Self Confidence 

I have struggled with self-confidence my entire life. It’s never been easy to feel good about myself, feel like I was good enough like I was attractive or even loved.  I am sure as single moms yourselves, you feel me.  The things we go through raising kids on our own and not having a true support system can be damaging to us. Whether you survived an abusive relationship, a toxic family, or are still dealing with mental health issues, loneliness, or any other dark cloud, your self-confidence suffers.

It is time to take back your self-love. It is time to begin to heal from those hurtful and false thoughts and learn how to feel more comfortable and confident in your own skin. I’m not just saying this to you, I’m saying this to me too! Are you ready to love yourself? I know I am!

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My Best Advice

Spend time with yourself. Yes, really. Take a little time each day, if you can, and have some quality me time.  Take a walk outside, go to the grocery store alone, watch a movie by yourself. Just relax in your own thoughts, examine them closely and start trying to change them. Find something you enjoy doing or thinking about and run with that. Find the small things in your day and all the little things that make you smile and hold on to that joy. Allow it to leak out and spread to the rest of your thoughts and actions. Find beauty in life, and find it in yourself.

Make time for outward self-love. Give yourself a mani-pedi, do an at-home face mask. Pluck your eyebrows, do a hair mask, take a bubble bath, buy some new makeup or a hot new outfit, etc. Pamper yourself, take care of yourself. Do something that will naturally boost your confidence and help you to not only maybe look a little better but feel so much better! These things may seem silly but they are actually important. Boost those endorphins any way you can, flaunt your hot self and look and feel fabulous. Because you are!

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Set new goals. This may seem like new years no-brainer, but the trick with this is to set realist goals for yourself.  That way when you didn’t go on that vacation to Bora Bora you won’t feel like you failed your goals. Set goals like, eat more greens, read more books, try a new workout, find a new game to play with the kids etc.  Be simple and realistic with your goals, so that way you can crush them and not be left with disappointment in a  years time.  Don’t fool yourself, but also don’t sell yourself short either. You know what realistic goals for yourself are, set yourself up for greatness, not failure. Make this year about what you can do, not what you wish you could do.

For more help with self-love, please visit liveyourdream.org

I hope I’ve given you some tips on making 2018 your best year yet and given you a shimmering new self-confidence!

May your year be blessed.

JessXO

 

What Could Go Wrong This Christmas?

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Happy Christmas mamas!

That sounded very British, didn’t it?

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It’s getting closer and closer to the holidays. The decorations are up; presents are exchanged. There is good cheer all around you. People are making the most of the holiday season and basking in the occasion; people are having fun. So it begs the question, what could go wrong this Christmas? As single moms, this time of year can be especially challenging and I bet these scenarios sound at least somewhat familiar… 

 

As with every big celebration throughout the year, there is always the danger of things going awry. These problems can range from the small to the calamitous, and it’s up to you to know how to deal with them should any of them arise. And, knowing the Universe, they probably will. #FAIL 

 

THE TRAGEDY OF THE TURKEY

 

A Christmas dinner of turkey and all the trimmings is a staple of any household’s yearly celebration. But, for all of the preparation you might painstakingly pour over in the upcoming weeks, there is no accounting for a potential disaster.

 

The turkey could end up burned; the oven could break, your uncle’s new wife could reveal that she is, actually, vegan and is wondering why you haven’t made accommodations for her needs. To avoid any of these problems, it’s a good idea to have a backup plan, should things turn out the opposite of intended. This doesn’t mean buying two of everything; there are recipes all over the internet to give you something to fall back on, should disaster strike. 

 

COPING WITH CRIME

 

It’s a shame that this has to be mentioned, but with holiday cheer also comes holiday tears. It would be nice for everyone to go through Christmas without having to deal with damage from outside influence but that is not always the case. It would be devastating to lose the gifts that I know as a single mom you did not come easily by. 

 

Crime at Christmas can be considered anything from drunk driving to personal damage. The spirit of the season seems to stop people thinking entirely sensibly. It can be devastating for families all over the world to find themselves the victims of criminal problems. Powers McCartan offers a nice little bit of advice on dealing with all types of crime that you might fall victim to, giving you a little peace of mind should anything go wrong.

 

ARGUMENTS WITH AUNTY ANNIE

 

Not just Aunty Annie, obviously. For some, the holiday season means nothing but disagreements, shouting matches, and an all around sour mood. But it doesn’t need to be that way. Being single moms, it’s, unfortunately, the norm to receive some kind of criticism from family during the holiday season, but be strong and hold your own! 

 

As much as some may try, the family still manages to get under each other’s skin over Christmas. It can be challenging to spend a whole day with a host of people that you a) don’t really know, and b) have next to nothing in common with or c) simply don’t agree with or understand your single mom lifestyle.  Disagreements are bound to arise at some point. To avoid this, there are ways to avoid confrontation, but should this fail; you can turn these negatives into positives.

 

The best way to approach Christmas is to assume the worst. If you are prepared for everything that can and will go wrong, you can at least have an idea of ways to solve it. Just try not to let the fear of disaster reign over all your Christmas cheer. I hope I have helped you to bravely face this wonderful time of year. I know how difficult it can be for us living the single mom life and I pray you all feel nothing but pure joy this Christmas. 

Be Merry & Bright

Jess XO

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Christmas cards in one click with PhotoMania

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Hey mamas! I hope you’re all having a wonderful Holiday season! This week I wanted to bring to you all the classic joy and memories of Christmas cards  and the easiest and best way to create this  years   Christmas cards  in one click with PhotoMania!

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As single moms, we don’t always have the time to do things such as send out cards, whether they be via snail mail or online. Also, the cost of having professional pictures taken to cards created is just too much for our tiny single mom wallets. Well, this will all change for you! I am excited to show you how amazing your Christmas cards will look using a simple click! With PhotoMania , you get to choose the effects, backgrounds, and fun editing of your own photos! Just choose your favorite photo of your little ones or whatever you think will make the best card and upload the photo to their site. It’s fast, easy, fun and FREE! 

To make it even better, PhotoMania has an app and a Chrome extension so you can add some personality to your favorite photos any time you want! Once you’ve created your Christmas card masterpiece, just save it to your phone or computer and send it out to all your friends and family! Booyah! 

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So what are you waiting for? Go right on over to PhotoMania  right now and start creating!  Have fun! Don’t forget to share and subscribe to my single mom tribe!

May your Holidays be wonderful!

Love, Jess XO

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The Ultimate Kids Gift Guide

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Ho Ho Ho!

It’s nearing that special time of year when we moms shop for the perfect gifts for our kids and I am here to make this year a heck of a lot easier! I am gifting you with the ultimate kid’s gift guide! Merry Christmas mamas!

My guide has everything from babies to teens, toys, clothes, games, books and more! Just shop on through the post, everything is below! Some things will be in shoppable guides directly from the shops or links to specific items will be included as well. Ready? Let’s dive right in!

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Toy Guide 

Here is one of the best places to shop for toys this year! Shop their site to find deals on the best of this year’s hottest toys!

Hasbro Toys

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Clothes

If you’re looking for the cutest, & trendiest clothes that are great quality for amazing prices then you need to shop Pat-Pat! Right now that are having sales up sales upon sales! Check out their clearance section for up to 90% off and more fabulous deals! Take an extra 15% off your order when you use code XMASPAT  at checkout! Shop all the latest kids fashions here!

They also are offering up to  65% off matching Christmas outfits for the family! Shop the looks here!

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Creative Gifts

If you’re looking for something more on the creative, unique and original side,  check out these eco-friendly subscriptions boxes that your kids are sure to love! Each box comes with fun science or art crafts that use only eco-friendly ingredients.  Gift your kid’s something extra special this year with a gift that will keep on giving! Green Kid Crafts

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For more ideas on creative and original gifts shop books, educational games and so much more with the gift guide from Educents!

Some of my favorite items are this adorable scented cupcake pillow!

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And this learn to code with Minecraft game!

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The Best From Highlights

Do you remember Highlights? I used to love the scented stickers and fun activity books that would come in the mail when I was a kid. Well, they are still around and better than ever! This year, gift your little ones with the fun, adventure, and learning that comes from one of the best and most loved kids subscription! Right now try Highlights club FREE through 12/16! click here!

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You can also shop their stocking stuffers and other gifts under $10! Shop here!

Personal Picks!

Here is my list of personal picks that I think your kids would love! Scroll through to find the best that I have personally chosen just for you!

 

This Lego Space Shuttle Explorer is a hot buy for the young boy in your life! Find it here!

Zoomer- Interactive show pony is the perfect gift for any girl! A must buy! Grab her here!

Who doesn’t love dancing baby Groot? Get Marvel’s Guardians of the Galaxy dancing Groot at a great price here!

This adorable LeapFrog stack & tumble elephant is perfect for the littlest of your wee ones!

And if you are a Target lover, you will be ecstatic to know that when you shop online you will get free shipping returns now through 12/23! Shop the best deals at Target here!

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Well, that’s my guide! I hope you have found the perfect gifts for your kids and saved some $!

If you need more gift options then please check out my last minuete gifts post from last year for more super awesome gifts that are sure to go over big! Click here to check it out!

Also, don’t forget to comment, share and subscribe!

May all you mamas have a beautiful bright and very merry Christmas!

Love, Jess XO