How To Be A Marvelous Role Model For Your Children

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Howdy mamas!

Once again I’m proud to bring you another awesome collaborative post on a topic that is very important. Being a better role model for our kids is something we all need to work on, so stay with me and feel free to jot these ideas down to better implement them going forward.

How To Be A Marvelous Role Model For Your Children 

As a single parent, you are the number one and sometimes only role model for your child. They, of course, think you are wonderful and idolize you (until they hit puberty that is!)  They will soak up your attitudes, behaviors and views like a sponge. And it’s for this reason we should be very aware of the kind of example we’re setting for our kids, they are observing and learning even the most subtle of our ways. Here are just a few of the ways we can be a good role model and help them to develop healthy and productive behaviors which will be useful to them later in life. 

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Eat Healthily

Kids are generally picky about food, that isn’t new information for anyone who has kids! However they might refuse things now but in time are likely to go on to mirror your behaviour and food habits. Seeing you filling up on healthy, delicious meals and making good choices will eventually become ingrained in them. Don’t make mealtimes feel stressful or chaotic, try them with new ingredients and if they refuse don’t make a huge deal of it. Try it again in a few weeks, kids tastes can change in a very short space of time and even their mood can determine how open they are to tasting new things. Getting kids involved in the kitchen is a good way to encourage healthy eating and if they’ve helped to make it they’re more likely to try it.

 

Be Financially Savvy

Having kids is expensive, and being a single mom does not make it any easier, so getting yourself into the best position financially is always worthwhile. You could look into how to consolidate debt, how to boost your savings and how to budget better to get yourself on track. When you have your money in order you’ll be far less stressed from scrimping and saving and trying to make ends meet. Teach children the value of money, instead of giving them pocket money let them earn it. Simple chores such as tidying their room, feeding a pet or loading the dishwasher will make them feel as though they’ve made an effort for it which can make them think more carefully before spending. It also teaches children the old adage ‘money doesn’t grow on trees’, when they ask for things they can appreciate that work has been put in to earn it.

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Read Books For Fun

Children reading books can improve language, develop empathy, enhance concentration, teaches them about a range of topics and can encourage a thirst for knowledge. It’s far more beneficial than playing computer games or watching tv, and so anything that gives them an interest in books and learning is a wonderful thing. Let them see how reading can be for fun and not just something they ‘have’ to do for school. Reading is great for adults too, it provides a fun escape, helps your memory and lots of other great psychological benefits. Read books for your own wellbeing, in doing so you show children that this is a great way to spend your free time. And of course, read with your children too.

 

Be Social

Haha, say what? Yeah, I know…but listen. There’s nothing wrong with being introverted, I am a very socially awkward introvert so this idea is terrifying. However, there are a lot of benefits that come from being confident and sociable. It makes it easier for children to develop friendships, express themselves and not be held back by insecurity. Take your children to groups and activities where you can both socialize with other children and adults. If they see you treating people respectfully and with manners, it’s a good way to encourage them to do the same. Introverted mamas unite! 

Are you ready to take on the world ahead as a more confident single mom? I sure hope so. Go be the best role model you can possibly be. Your kiddos will (hopefully) thank you later in life.  Give this post a like, comment & share!

A collaboration 🙂

Much love, peace out.

JessXO

So, You Want To Be A Mompreneur? Avoid These 3 Mistakes

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Hey Mamas, How’s it going?

Are you currently or are you looking into becoming an awesome mompreneur? Then this post is so for you!

So, You Want To Be A Mompreneur? Avoid These 3 Mistakes

There’s no greater or nobler calling in life than being a parent. But if there’s one thing that parenthood does to a woman, other than giving her a profound sense of love and purpose that she had never previously thought possible, it’s giving her renewed sense of perspective. Motherhood represents a complete and irrevocable change to a woman’s psychology and the myriad of things that used to keep her awake at night simply pale in comparison to the sense of duty, responsibility, and accomplishment that comes with being a Mom. With this in mind, it’s no surprise that many women are reluctant to return to the workplace, especially against a backdrop of prejudice, discrimination, and mistrust toward new mothers.  It’s even more difficult as a single mom, our place is home with our children, otherwise, there will be no parent to actually raise them. So, insert amazing new mompreneur title here!

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In lieu of returning to work, many new or single mothers opt instead to develop their own businesses, thus becoming… mompreneurs. The women who choose to do this are trailblazers and should be commended for taking their futures (and those of their families) into their own hands. That said, the path of the momtrepreneur is perilous and full of pitfalls. In order to be a successful mompreneur, it’s vitally important to steer clear of these common mistakes…

Failing to find the balance

Like any self-employed person, a mompreneur walks a fine line in giving both her child and her business the attention they deserve, finding new routines to suit their dual role. Nearly all new mompreneurs dedicate too much time to their nascent businesses. While the first year of any business is a period of unparalleled hard work, but most new entrepreneurs don’t have to balance their commitments to their businesses with safeguarding another little life.

As a result, many new mompreneurs find themselves losing sleep, taking too little time to themselves and inevitably burning out.

Taking too much on themselves

Any business, especially a new business, wages a constant war against escalating overheads. Employees are one of the biggest overheads for a new business, and it can be tempting for new mompreneurs to try to do everything themselves. This is, however, the epitome of false economy. Taking on too much yourself will impede your business’ growth and make the who enterprise lonelier and more stressful than it needs to be.

A strong team will make your business a more enjoyable endeavor while facilitating real and lasting growth. If you’re hard pressed for cash, consider recruiting within the pool of Moms with whom you mix socially. They may appreciate the opportunity, even if you can’t pay them too much at the start. You can collaborate with them using free collaboration software like Slack and Asana and give them pay stubs using a check stub maker. When you’re business grows to new heights, you’ll be glad to have your team behind you.

Failing to outsource

Once again, the understandable desire to drive down overheads can lead to some wrongheaded decisions. While entrepreneurs are dynamic and multi-talented people, it’s important to realize that you can’t do everything yourself and some things are best left to the professionals. Digital marketing, for instance, may seem easy for the social media savvy but while nearly everyone knows how to create a presence and cultivate a following on social media, an outsourced digital marketing consultant will be able to help convert your online following into profitable business interest.

Avoiding these 3 missteps will be huge when creating your own home business. Always remember that you are doing something amazing, brave, and ultimately, what is best for your family. I hope these insights will help you soar high on your mompreneur adventures.

Please share!

A collaboration 🙂

Love, Jess XO

 

Self Confidence For The Single Mom

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Happy New Year Mamas!

The start of the new year is right around the corner and with that for most brings a lot of looking at your life, resolutions, new goals, and self-confidence issues. So today I am hoping to help boost all of these areas for you! Keep on reading to see my best advice for self-confidence for the single mom!

Reflection & Looking Ahead

Pretty much everyone takes a look back on the last year of their life and a glimpse of hope for the next year on New Years. It’s a time to really think about what you’ve accomplished, or not accomplished and what you can do better going into the new year. As single moms, sometimes it’s hard to not have those negative thoughts about we failed ourselves, our kids and just didn’t do everything we feel like we should have. But you know what? None of that is true!

You are a smart, strong, hard-working mama who absolutely did her best and in no way failed anyone.  Do not look back on this last year with disappointment in yourself. You did all you could, and you rocked it! Do look ahead with hope and excitement, because this year will be even better. You can only go up from here, claim it and believe it! Let’s all move forward ready to take on 2018.

Self Confidence 

I have struggled with self-confidence my entire life. It’s never been easy to feel good about myself, feel like I was good enough like I was attractive or even loved.  I am sure as single moms yourselves, you feel me.  The things we go through raising kids on our own and not having a true support system can be damaging to us. Whether you survived an abusive relationship, a toxic family, or are still dealing with mental health issues, loneliness, or any other dark cloud, your self-confidence suffers.

It is time to take back your self-love. It is time to begin to heal from those hurtful and false thoughts and learn how to feel more comfortable and confident in your own skin. I’m not just saying this to you, I’m saying this to me too! Are you ready to love yourself? I know I am!

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My Best Advice

Spend time with yourself. Yes, really. Take a little time each day, if you can, and have some quality me time.  Take a walk outside, go to the grocery store alone, watch a movie by yourself. Just relax in your own thoughts, examine them closely and start trying to change them. Find something you enjoy doing or thinking about and run with that. Find the small things in your day and all the little things that make you smile and hold on to that joy. Allow it to leak out and spread to the rest of your thoughts and actions. Find beauty in life, and find it in yourself.

Make time for outward self-love. Give yourself a mani-pedi, do an at-home face mask. Pluck your eyebrows, do a hair mask, take a bubble bath, buy some new makeup or a hot new outfit, etc. Pamper yourself, take care of yourself. Do something that will naturally boost your confidence and help you to not only maybe look a little better but feel so much better! These things may seem silly but they are actually important. Boost those endorphins any way you can, flaunt your hot self and look and feel fabulous. Because you are!

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Set new goals. This may seem like new years no-brainer, but the trick with this is to set realist goals for yourself.  That way when you didn’t go on that vacation to Bora Bora you won’t feel like you failed your goals. Set goals like, eat more greens, read more books, try a new workout, find a new game to play with the kids etc.  Be simple and realistic with your goals, so that way you can crush them and not be left with disappointment in a  years time.  Don’t fool yourself, but also don’t sell yourself short either. You know what realistic goals for yourself are, set yourself up for greatness, not failure. Make this year about what you can do, not what you wish you could do.

For more help with self-love, please visit liveyourdream.org

I hope I’ve given you some tips on making 2018 your best year yet and given you a shimmering new self-confidence!

May your year be blessed.

JessXO

 

What Could Go Wrong This Christmas?

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Happy Christmas mamas!

That sounded very British, didn’t it?

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It’s getting closer and closer to the holidays. The decorations are up; presents are exchanged. There is good cheer all around you. People are making the most of the holiday season and basking in the occasion; people are having fun. So it begs the question, what could go wrong this Christmas? As single moms, this time of year can be especially challenging and I bet these scenarios sound at least somewhat familiar… 

 

As with every big celebration throughout the year, there is always the danger of things going awry. These problems can range from the small to the calamitous, and it’s up to you to know how to deal with them should any of them arise. And, knowing the Universe, they probably will. #FAIL 

 

THE TRAGEDY OF THE TURKEY

 

A Christmas dinner of turkey and all the trimmings is a staple of any household’s yearly celebration. But, for all of the preparation you might painstakingly pour over in the upcoming weeks, there is no accounting for a potential disaster.

 

The turkey could end up burned; the oven could break, your uncle’s new wife could reveal that she is, actually, vegan and is wondering why you haven’t made accommodations for her needs. To avoid any of these problems, it’s a good idea to have a backup plan, should things turn out the opposite of intended. This doesn’t mean buying two of everything; there are recipes all over the internet to give you something to fall back on, should disaster strike. 

 

COPING WITH CRIME

 

It’s a shame that this has to be mentioned, but with holiday cheer also comes holiday tears. It would be nice for everyone to go through Christmas without having to deal with damage from outside influence but that is not always the case. It would be devastating to lose the gifts that I know as a single mom you did not come easily by. 

 

Crime at Christmas can be considered anything from drunk driving to personal damage. The spirit of the season seems to stop people thinking entirely sensibly. It can be devastating for families all over the world to find themselves the victims of criminal problems. Powers McCartan offers a nice little bit of advice on dealing with all types of crime that you might fall victim to, giving you a little peace of mind should anything go wrong.

 

ARGUMENTS WITH AUNTY ANNIE

 

Not just Aunty Annie, obviously. For some, the holiday season means nothing but disagreements, shouting matches, and an all around sour mood. But it doesn’t need to be that way. Being single moms, it’s, unfortunately, the norm to receive some kind of criticism from family during the holiday season, but be strong and hold your own! 

 

As much as some may try, the family still manages to get under each other’s skin over Christmas. It can be challenging to spend a whole day with a host of people that you a) don’t really know, and b) have next to nothing in common with or c) simply don’t agree with or understand your single mom lifestyle.  Disagreements are bound to arise at some point. To avoid this, there are ways to avoid confrontation, but should this fail; you can turn these negatives into positives.

 

The best way to approach Christmas is to assume the worst. If you are prepared for everything that can and will go wrong, you can at least have an idea of ways to solve it. Just try not to let the fear of disaster reign over all your Christmas cheer. I hope I have helped you to bravely face this wonderful time of year. I know how difficult it can be for us living the single mom life and I pray you all feel nothing but pure joy this Christmas. 

Be Merry & Bright

Jess XO

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Why Do I Feel So Empty? – Signs Of Depression & Mental Illness

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Hey there mamas,

So today on the blog I am sharing a fantastic article written by my friends at  http://www.betterhelp.com about the signs and symptoms of depression. Mental health is a topic that I think is very important and as a mom who struggles with depression and other mental health issues, I feel the need to share some info with you all as it seriously impacts us as moms and women.  I have written about mental health before since it’s such an important topic to me, so  I was very thankful for this article to share. Continue on to read how to better understand how you may be feeling. – Jess XO

 

Why Do I Feel So Empty?

Feeling empty is one of the loneliest feelings there is and it is so difficult to explain to people too. How do you tell someone what feeling empty is like? It is sort of like knowing there is something missing but not knowing what it is. It is a helpless and sad feeling that changes your whole outlook on life. If you cannot figure out what it is that is making you feel that way, that feeling may not go away. You may think it is because you are broke or because you had a fight with your best friend. However, these external things do not usually last. You may be sad for a while due to external issues like this but it does not continue day after day. That is about your inner perspective and what your expectations are. Figuring out what is causing this feeling is not easy.

What Does Feeling Empty Feel Like?

You may be feeling tired and rundown or you may feel numbness. These feelings are usually a sign that there is something going on with your mental health. You may be stressed out or anxious about something or you may be depressed. Figuring out why you are feeling this way is important so you can get back to your normal life. Has anything happened to you recently that is affecting your mental health like losing your job or the loss of a family member? These things can trigger an episode of emptiness that may not go away until you address it. Maybe you are suffering from a physical illness that you cannot get rid of or you may be having trouble sleeping. These feelings you are having can affect your life, your work, and your relationships as well.

Getting Some Help

It may be time to talk to someone about these feelings so you can get your life back on track. This does not mean that you need to run out and find a psychiatrist or psychologist. Your first step should be talking to your regular doctor. Get a physical checkup and tell the doctor how you are feeling. He may find something simple that is wrong such as a hormone imbalance or vitamin deficiency. If that is the case, a prescription may be able to fix your emptiness feeling. If not, he may suggest you talk to a therapist.

Therapy Online

If you do not want to make an appointment and see a therapist, there are other options that can make it easier. Online mental health resources such as BetterHelp.com can help you find someone to talk to and you do not even need to leave the house or make an appointment. In fact, you can try a chat room at first to see how you like that. A chat room is a good place to talk to others anonymously about your feelings and get advice from others who have similar issues. If that is not for you, there are over 2,000 licensed professionals available to talk to you online anytime on your smartphone or other electronic devices. Give it a try and you could be feeling better today!

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10 Things You Don’t Know About Me!

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Hey hey hey, mamas!

How’s it going today? Well I hope! So, I wanted to do a quick fun post telling you all 10 things you don’t know about me! This is a get to know me better post and I hope you enjoy learning these 10 things about me! Let’s get right into it, shall we?

  1.  I’m not a morning person. 

Like…at all. I sleep through them, as often as I can help it.  I am very much a night owl and getting up early just isn’t something my body can do very well. I’ve always been that way. It physically affects me to the point of massive headaches and nausea. So when I say no way to getting up before noon, I mean it!

2.  I’m a lyricist. 

Since the age of 13, I have been an avid lyricist. Music is one of my biggest passions and the art of songwriting is something I have always felt called to do, something that flows through me like nothing else. It’s just part of me. I’m no musician and I can’t sing to save my life, so writing lyrics is what I do. I have written thousands of songs and my goal is to one day have them published to be recorded by artists and have my lyrics sung for the world.

3. I’m a chocoholic. 

Hi…I’m Jesse and I’m a chocoholic….I have had quite the sweet tooth all my life, but it’s been these last few years that I have really fallen off the wagon.  As part of my nightly de-stress and unwind routine I almost always have some sort of chocolatey dessert in hind as I flick on the tv, and cuddle up under my favourite blanket and just kick it until the wee hours. It’s how I find some sort of happiness in my day, a way to end the day on a positive note.

4.  I live on a ranch.

So, if you don’t know this about me already, I live in a very remote area of Northern California.  The middle of nowhere, or the boonies if you like, but I’m definitely out in the country. No buildings, highways, or even very many people around here. It’s over an hour’s drive to the nearest town. Seriously.  My parents own ranch property like most of the folks do out here, and we have 40+ acres of land. We house horses for friends and have creeks, lots of trees, mountains and even a waterfall we like to hike to on occasion. It’s really tough to live in such a remote area sometimes, and I dream for more of a city life, but my situation keeps me here and here is my home. I was born and raised in this house, and the same goes for my son.

5. I homeschool.

It has always been my plan to homeschool my children, it’s something I firmly believe in and love. I was homeschooled growing up and it was perfect for me for so many reasons. My son is currently in the 1st grade and this is our 2nd year of officially homeschooling and some days it’s a huge challenge to get through the day, but then there are other days when it all goes smoothly and there are big smiles on both our faces. I would never consider any other option and we are in it for the long haul.

6. I suffer from depression and anxiety. 

Mental and emotional health is a subject I have touched on a few times on my blog, it’s something very personal for me and I plan on blogging more about it in the future. I have had a very deep depression and anxiety issues my entire life.  It’s not something I bring up often with people, it’s my own personal struggle I keep inside myself. I manage fairly well from day to day but there are times when it’s all consuming and I find myself slumped in front of the tv for hours or days at a time dealing with very dark thoughts, emotions and internal and external pain.  It’s always there, but things trigger it for me and it becomes much more present than an average day when it’s just like a constant dull ache.  I don’t take any medications, that’s not something I feel comfortable with, I live a more all-natural lifestyle, I don’t take or use anything not made naturally from organic ingredients.  I have accepted the way I am and I try to have hope that maybe someday things may look up for me at last.

7. I am a huge geek.

When it comes to things like so-called geeky movies, tv shows or books you can count me in as a fan! My friends think I’m silly and don’t get me but hey, it’s all good. I tend to be rather obsessed with my geeky stuff, I mean you should see my “geek shelf” It’s lined all the way across the wall with books, special and collectors editions of my favorite films, actions figures and more. My biggest geeky passions are all things, J.R.R. Tolkien, Game of Thrones, Star Wars, and many, many more! I even speak a little Elvish…so..yeah, I’m a big geek all right! 😛

8.  I’m writing a book.

Yes, that’s right. For the last 2 years now I have been slowly working on a little novel that I plan to have finished my next summer. It is based on my life and events that took place when I was 18. It was a very complicated time of my life and the choices I made then have changed everything about me and I feel a need to let out some of the emotions I have about it all. It’s been both fun and difficult to write, but I’m proud of myself for making it happen. Now, if only I could think of a title!

9.  I used to be a dancer.

Growing up I was a dancer and I loved it! I wasn’t very good at it, to be honest, but all the passion was there! I fumbled my way through ballet, jazz, tap, and hip-hop for years before turning 18 and my classes ending. Shortly there after I discovered belly dancing and I took to it like a  fly to a horse and fell in love with the amazing art form. I danced with a troupe as well as solo for almost 10 years before I was no longer able to dance. My hope is to one day pick it up again and perform or even just teach!

10. I love my blog!

Bet you didn’t know that! Haha, actually you probably did, but I wanted to make sure!

I hope you enjoyed learning more about me! I want to know more about you too, so please join my tribe of single moms and subscribe to my blog and leave me a comment!

Much love, Jess XO

 

Own Stock With Stockpile!

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Hey hey!

How’s it goin’ pretty mama? Today I want to share with you something pretty darn awesome. Stockpile, a fractional stock site where you can buy, sell and invest in real stock!

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Own Stock With Stockpile 

Why is this exciting and why am I telling you about it? Well, let’s take a moment to think about our futures. As single moms, we struggle and work our fabulous booties off to provide the best lives we can not only for ourselves but for our kids. It’s not easy and sometimes it would be nice if we had something a little extra to contribute. Financial security is huge to any family, but especially to us single moms. With no man of the house to bring home the bacon and provide that security of work it’s all on us. We have to find ways to keep everyone alive all on our own. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there’s was something we could do now that could have the potential to add a little bit of financial security to our family? Set our kids up for the future by only one small investment, or several? Well, there is!

 

With Stockpile you are automatically given a $5 gift card to help towards the purchase of your fractional stock. So this means the amount on your gift card is the amount of stock you’ll get. It’s an easy and affordable way to buy into stock from big companies! Want to own a small share of Amazon? You can! It would be a great gift for your kids on their birthday’s or Christmas, or to gift to other relatives or friends! Or just to own all yourself!

 

“What could be cooler for a money-minded kid than getting a gift card emblazoned with the logo of a hot company such as Apple, Tesla, or Facebook?”

– Consumer Reports

 

Are you excited yet? I know I am! So what are you waiting for? Get in on this hot tamale train today and get yourself a little piece of something big! You can go right here to get started!

 

If you have any more questions about how Stockpile works, just click the link above and check out the site! Any questions you have should have an answer in the FAQ’s.

You’re welcome & enjoy!

 

You know I’ve always got you 😉

Love your girl, Jess XO