5 Things I Know You Are Fed Up With As A Single Mom

Hey mamas!

So, I’m just going to get straight into it today, because I know what it feels like to be a fed up single mom. So no wasting time here, I am ready to share my thoughts with you knowing that you can totally relate, so let’s dive right in.

5 Things I Know You Are Fed Up With As A Single Mom

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1. Getting flack and/or feeling guilty about child support.  Most single parents in this modern world are court ordered or otherwise to pay child support unless the other parent is not in the picture ( this is my case ) and I know it’s a complicated situation and can lead to getting tons of flack from the other parent, their family, your family, friends and mom shamers online. It’s no picnic to be a single mom, and when you are paying or receiving or attempting to receive child support it can feel like a lonely and vicious battle.

Sometimes you may feel guilty for needing it or wanting it from the “father” even if it was the court’s decision, not yours. If it was you who decided to go after the support you shouldn’t feel bad for it.  It is expensive to raise children, and the other person is responsible for helping so let them do what they should be doing and feel grateful for the help instead of guilty, shamed or simply ticked off for negative comments thrown your way.  Straighten your crown and take care of those babies!

2. Pressure to find a man and/or father figure. Ok, now this one really steams me up! Are you ever annoyed and pressured by friends and family for being a single mom? I know I certainly am. You get the lectures about how your kid/s need a more active male presence int heir life, someone to be a “father figure” or how you shouldn’t have to do everything on your own, and how you need a man and blah blah blah? Doesn’t it drive you mad?

To heck with that! You are a strong independent mama who doesn’t need a man. That’s right, you are solid, girl. It might be nice to have a dude around but just remember all the heartache and complications that come with breakups as a single mom and also the potential vulnerability and craziness of online dating.  Politely tell those friends or family members to buzz off and leave you alone about finding a man.  You got this!

3.  Being the only bad guy. Being a single mom is tough for countless reasons, one of them being that, most days anyway, you are the only disciplinary for your child/ren. When the kids act up and you have to dish out the mean voice and disciple it feels 100 times worse on your own, because you are always the bad guy to your kids.  There are no taking turns with the other parent, there are no times when you feel ok giving in and letting things slip. It’s all you, all the time.

This is necessary, however, no matter how much it sucks.  Even on the days when you feel overwhelmed, beaten and worn down by the little terrors in your life.  I know you’re fed up, but stay strong and get mean even if you hate it. One day, they will respect you more for it. Hopefully.

Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt personally victimized by your kid.

Raise your hand - mean girls

4.  Feeling lonely.  Loneliness comes with the territory of being a single mom.  The lack of a social life can get to you, especially on the harder days. I know it’s easy to feel isolated and left out when it seems like everyone else is out there living life, going to fun events, dinners, dates, traveling etc while you are stuck at home with kids every day.

For me, being a stay at home, homeschooling single mom, I am at home with my son all day every day. So let me tell ya, it can make you feel like you’re slowly losing your mind. Pretty soon you will start having full on conversations with the broom just to feel human again. But never fear, it does get easier. Doesn’t it?

5.  Never getting a break. Last on this list is the feeling that so often comes with parenthood that you just never get a break. Constant running here and there, dealing with this crisis, this crying kid, this ringing phone, this bill that somehow needs to get paid, the lack of sleep. It wears you down and wears you out. If you don’t get 5 minutes to yourself soon you are going to scream, right? I feel you. 

But listen, you are a mom! As tiring and hectic as it all is, it’s your job! Who else is going to do it? You do deserve a break, so figure out a way to make it happen, whether it’s staying up a bit later after the kids are asleep, or leaving them with grandparents for a day or a weekend. Make it happen and find some time to take for yourself, then you will feel refreshed and ready to get back at it! Put on your super mom pants and do what you gotta do, girl. Raise those babies, and know that you absolutely can do this and even when you are going insane, you are doing a good job and it’s all going to be alright!

So tell me, which one of these are you the most fed up with? Leave me a comment!

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Much love, Jessxo

Why You Should Be Using Reusable Diapers For Your Baby

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Hey there foxy mamas!

Do you have a little bitty one in diapers right now? If so then this post is specifically for you. I have thought a lot about the idea of reusable diapers and have come to a conclusion. Read on to learn more about this eco-friendly option!

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Why You Should Be Using Reusable Diapers For Your Baby

If my son was a baby again or if I were to miraculously be blessed with another little one, I would be all over reusable diapers . Why? Over the years I’ve looked into them out of curiosity as I’ve seen so many moms rave about them and heard about how much money they save and how much healthier they are for baby and the environment. But I was skeptical, I was thinking about how gross they must be to use and how inconvenient they must be, but after several years of research and time spent thinking about it (does that make me weird?) I have come to the conclusion that reusable diapers are 100% the way to go for most of the time use. Here are some reasons why…

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  • They cost much less than disposable diapers. Saving you tons of $ (how can that not be a good thing?)
  • They are far more comfortable for baby to wear. No tight, scratchy edges, just smooth, breathable, all natural cotton.
  • No need to continue buying diapers every week or even every month. You can wash and reuse these diapers over and over again.  This will save you hundreds! Plus they are so cute and adorable to see on baby. Cute patterns and colors for the win!
  • Reusable diapers and 100% eco-friendly, made with only non-toxic and natural fabric, unlike most disposable diapers which are actually made with toxins that are not healthy for baby! All natural is always best!
  • 50% off right now! Yes, that’s right. Recieve 50% off your order of reusable diapers  right now! (Yaass!)

Are you convinced yet? I sure hope so! Here’s to a healthier and happier baby! Dancing happy baby

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Love your girl, Jessxo

The Little Touches Of A Busy Mom

Hey there mamas, hope you’re having a fine day!

We as busy moms can sometimes lose sight of the small things, and forget how much the little touches we provide actually matter to our kids. So today let’s talk all about these important little touches. Read on!

The Little Touches Of A Busy Mom

For a lot of mothers who juggle with the difficulties of managing a business and the challenges of looking after a child, there is nothing more heartbreaking than hearing your child complain about the lack of time you’ve got for them. Unfortunately, for a lot of mompreneurs, time is exactly what they struggle with on a daily basis. While every mother will tell you their child is their first priority and that they would always drop everything to look after a sick child, there are many situations where children may wrongly believe that your career is the priority. So it’s important to make sure that you’ve organized your life in such a way that your child knows he or she is what matters the most to you and that they are always in your heart. As a busy single mom, you need to be smart about how you show your affection, especially because your time is an essential part of your ability to generate the only income. With also being the only parent, your time is so much more important. 


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Their bedroom, their style

If you’ve been looking for an idea to treat your child, you can already forget about buying more toys or clothes. Indeed, you need to help them to create a space that is theirs at home, namely with a bedroom makeover. The bedroom can be a reflection of their personalities and tastes, and more importantly, it’s a way to show that you respect their choices. While you can surprise them with a fully planned project, it’s best to involve them from the early stages of the decor research until the selection of the furniture. As their mother, this will show them that you value their opinions. Read my post all about how to gift your kids with the best bedroom makeover ever! Click here!


Don’t let business trips come between you

Your career can sometimes take you out of town for a couple of days. If this is the case, and even though you know you can rely on a relative or a friend to look after your child, it’s important to plan something for each day. For instance, you could record your voice on a CD with professional sound mastering from a company such as Nationwide Disc for them to listen before going to bed. Or you could make a small DIY doll each time you have to spend a night away. Being apart from you is a big deal with a child, so you need to show that you still think of them. 

Record yourself reading their favorite story


Quality time every day

Finally, at the end of the day, you may just want to relax in peace. But you need to block in your busy schedule time to cultivate your bond with your child. Creating quality time doesn’t mean that you can’t work during the day. This is why working from home is always the best choice for moms, but it’s still important to remember that you just need to put aside your business and household duties every evening for one hour to dedicate this time entirely to your child. Your time together can become a routine. It doesn’t have to be long if you’re busy. But you need to maintain a bond through games, reading or simply a chat about your respective days.

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Bonding while busy with home business management is never easy. But you’ll find that showing your child that you value their opinions, maintain a connection even when you’re away and make a point of spending time together when you’re at home can go a long way. Finding the work/mom balance isn’t always easy, but it’s worth the effort, always. Give this post a like, or share and remember that on this crazy single mom journey, you are never alone! 🙂 

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Love, Jessxo


So, You Want To Be A Mompreneur? Avoid These 3 Mistakes

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Hey Mamas, How’s it going?

Are you currently or are you looking into becoming an awesome mompreneur? Then this post is so for you!

So, You Want To Be A Mompreneur? Avoid These 3 Mistakes

There’s no greater or nobler calling in life than being a parent. But if there’s one thing that parenthood does to a woman, other than giving her a profound sense of love and purpose that she had never previously thought possible, it’s giving her renewed sense of perspective. Motherhood represents a complete and irrevocable change to a woman’s psychology and the myriad of things that used to keep her awake at night simply pale in comparison to the sense of duty, responsibility, and accomplishment that comes with being a Mom. With this in mind, it’s no surprise that many women are reluctant to return to the workplace, especially against a backdrop of prejudice, discrimination, and mistrust toward new mothers.  It’s even more difficult as a single mom, our place is home with our children, otherwise, there will be no parent to actually raise them. So, insert amazing new mompreneur title here!

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In lieu of returning to work, many new or single mothers opt instead to develop their own businesses, thus becoming… mompreneurs. The women who choose to do this are trailblazers and should be commended for taking their futures (and those of their families) into their own hands. That said, the path of the momtrepreneur is perilous and full of pitfalls. In order to be a successful mompreneur, it’s vitally important to steer clear of these common mistakes…

Failing to find the balance

Like any self-employed person, a mompreneur walks a fine line in giving both her child and her business the attention they deserve, finding new routines to suit their dual role. Nearly all new mompreneurs dedicate too much time to their nascent businesses. While the first year of any business is a period of unparalleled hard work, but most new entrepreneurs don’t have to balance their commitments to their businesses with safeguarding another little life.

As a result, many new mompreneurs find themselves losing sleep, taking too little time to themselves and inevitably burning out.

Taking too much on themselves

Any business, especially a new business, wages a constant war against escalating overheads. Employees are one of the biggest overheads for a new business, and it can be tempting for new mompreneurs to try to do everything themselves. This is, however, the epitome of false economy. Taking on too much yourself will impede your business’ growth and make the who enterprise lonelier and more stressful than it needs to be.

A strong team will make your business a more enjoyable endeavor while facilitating real and lasting growth. If you’re hard pressed for cash, consider recruiting within the pool of Moms with whom you mix socially. They may appreciate the opportunity, even if you can’t pay them too much at the start. You can collaborate with them using free collaboration software like Slack and Asana and give them pay stubs using a check stub maker. When you’re business grows to new heights, you’ll be glad to have your team behind you.

Failing to outsource

Once again, the understandable desire to drive down overheads can lead to some wrongheaded decisions. While entrepreneurs are dynamic and multi-talented people, it’s important to realize that you can’t do everything yourself and some things are best left to the professionals. Digital marketing, for instance, may seem easy for the social media savvy but while nearly everyone knows how to create a presence and cultivate a following on social media, an outsourced digital marketing consultant will be able to help convert your online following into profitable business interest.

Avoiding these 3 missteps will be huge when creating your own home business. Always remember that you are doing something amazing, brave, and ultimately, what is best for your family. I hope these insights will help you soar high on your mompreneur adventures.

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Love, Jess XO


Super Storage Tips For Moms

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Hey mamas!

How’s it going? Are you enjoying 2018 so far? With so many resolutions for the new year, de-cluttering your life is usually one of them. So today I am bringing you super storage tips! Read on for all the best tips to start your de-cluttering journey.

Super Storage Tips For Moms

January is many things. It’s the month of starting diets and detoxes. It’s the time you assess your finances and make some cutbacks. It’s when everything goes back to normal after all the planning and excitement of Christmas. And, it’s the month that mom’s  all over the world attempt to find storage space for all of those gifts that seemed like a good idea at the time. Without upsetting the kids by demanding they say goodbye to any of their old toys that they haven’t touched for years but suddenly can’t bear to be without. The trick is organization. With just a little planning and some brilliant storage tips, you can easily fit in all those new toys, without resorting to a huge clearance.

The Living Room

When we’ve got young kids that need constant supervision, a lot of their toys live in the living room. While this is essential for keeping the kids safe and happy, it can quickly lead to clutter and mess. Which in turn can cause broken toys or even bones, as well as stressful hours spent trying to find things when we need them.

Fortunately, there are some great ways to make the most of your living room storage space. You could try wall mounted shelves, to keep all of your grown-up possessions out of the kid’s way. Then, you could create a kid’s zone, separated from the rest of the room with a large piece of furniture (perhaps the back of your sofa). This area should be a safe space where the kids are free to make a mess. Other options include over door hangers and large, shallow storage boxes that easily slide under your sofa or chairs.

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Another fantastic option is toy rotation. Yes, their toys need to be played within the living room. But, they don’t play with everything at once. Keep a few of their favorite Christmas gifts out in the family room, and tidy the rest away in toy boxes in their rooms. Then, every few weeks, rotate the toys that you have out. When they are very young, this will be like getting new toys every few weeks as they’ll barely remember them.

The Bedroom

Kids bedrooms can be an absolute nightmare. When they are very young, their room can lose the personal touch as it starts to feel like little more than storage. Then, as they get older, you need to find a way to store toys where they can reach them, without it getting too messy. Check out my recent post all about decor ideas that double as storage for their bedrooms here.

The best way to handle kid-friendly storage is with large storage boxes that they can pull out and open themselves. Encourage them to keep things tidy and organized by having a fun clean-up session at the end of the day.


It can be tempting to keep all the outdoor toys inside, to keep them safe from both theft and weather. But, install a shed with Armstrong steel buildings bbb, and you won’t need to. Outdoor toys can be large and bulky. A shed is the perfect place to keep them and can be just as safe and secure as your home.

Are you ready to tackle the mess in your life? I know I am! Let’s do this! 😀

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Much Love, JessXO

Wonderful Bedroom Decor Ideas For Kids

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Hello mamas!

Today I wanted to bring you a treat for the kiddos, they deserve some love too! So read on for some wonderful bedroom decor ideas!

Wonderful Bedroom Decor Ideas For Kids 

One of the responsibilities of motherhood is looking after our children. Whether it’s nursing them back to good health when they’re ill or surprising them on Christmas day with the toy they’ve been nagging you about for the past few months, we give a lot to our children in order to make them happy and fit for the world.

If you’ve been meaning to treat your child for a while, then giving them a bedroom makeover can transform their New Year and give them something to remember for the rest of 2018. To help you out, I’ve put together a list of wonderful bedroom decor ideas so that you can impress your child and give them a motivational boost to work hard and grow this year.

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Step One: Research

Decor ideas will, of course, change depending on your child’s interests and their age. If they’re still young then they probably won’t care much for superheroes and dolls, but if they’re a little older (early teens) then they’re going to start asking for more privacy and you could give it to them with some light bedroom renovations or decor changes. If you want to treat your children, then you need to learn what their interests are. This should be relatively easy but it doesn’t hurt to ask them who their favorite cartoon characters are or what their favorite color is. As their mom who should already know these basics, but it’s a good idea to ask anyway to see if anything has changed. Kids do change their minds a lot!

If you’d prefer not to sneak around and do this as a surprise, then work together with your child to plan the ultimate bedroom renovation for them. Get a scrapbook (a digital or physical one, both work) and start compiling some ideas to help your child get the bedroom of their dreams.


Multifunctional Everything

Making the most of a child’s bedroom will occasionally involve multifunctional furniture. Whether it’s treehouse beds, a nested desk or even a transformable shelf, having multifunctional furniture can be both fun, interesting and space-saving. Just be careful of certain types of multifunctional furniture with hinges that could hurt your child if they aren’t being supervised.


Make the Walls Stand Out

Whether it’s wallpaper of their favorite color or cartoon characters or a simple and plain color that they can paint or draw on, like say chalk paint, making the walls stand out should be one of the first things you think about. While it can get messy, giving your child a rather blank design for their wallpaper could give them endless creative pleasure since it means they can paint, draw or put stickers on their wall. If you’d prefer not to get into such a mess, then getting a colorful wallpaper will do the trick.


Bed Linen Designs

Make bedtime special by replacing the linens on your child’s bed with something a bit more colorful, unique or closer to their interests. Some children want to sleep in superhero pajamas while others are fine getting to bed with a cartoon pillow. My son loves his Spiderman bed set! In addition to just changing the linen, you could also add a couple of plush toys if your child enjoys them.


A New Desk

Have a creative child or a young teenager that loves to use computers? Get them their own desk to make them feel a lot more “professional” and “grown-up” like the adults. You’ll need to get a table that is suitable for their size, but you could invest in an adjustable children’s table so it grows with them. Designing a bedroom that grows with your child can be difficult, but it’s all about having furniture that will scale to their needs as they get bigger. It takes a bit of planning and perhaps more money, but it’s worth it because you won’t need to replace furniture as they outgrow it. Since we homeschool, I am hoping to bring a desk into my son’s room when he’s a little older so he will have his own place to do his school work once he’s ready to do things on his own. 

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Storage for Everything

Storage, storage, storage! Your children are going to accumulate plenty of things in the future. Whether it’s toys, books, memorabilia or games, they’ll need plenty of storage to keep their things. While it’s a good idea to teach your child how to be frugal and live with less, we can’t strip children of their desires to own lots of toys and have lots of things to entertain themselves, to make sure you invest in storage that allows them to hold on to everything that’s precious to them. A basic shelf can work, but hidden storage under the bed or in seating can add lots of “secret” furniture where they can store special items. Just remember not to install too many wall shelves until they’re old enough to reach them because it could cause accidents.

I hope these have sparked some ideas that will help you design the most epic room for your kiddos! I’m sure they will love and appreciate it, have fun & get busy being your own Joanna Gaines of kid’s rooms! 🙂

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Love, Jess XO

Help! My Kid Has An Undiagnosable Health Issue

Hey mamas!

There is something I wanted to bright up on the blog today in regards to health issues in our kids.  It’s not always fun to talk about and can be a bit controversial for some. But if you have ever said  “Help! My kid has an undiagnosable health issue!” Then this post is for you. Continue on for some helpful tips.

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Help! My kid has an undiagnosable health issue

Did you know that there are lots of health issues that doctors simply cannot diagnose? Fibromyalgia is a brilliant example of this. While this is technically a diagnosis, it’s also a cop-out. You see fibromyalgia is a diagnosis given to anyone experiencing unexplained chronic pain anywhere in the body. The young and the old can develop this condition and doctors have no idea what causes it or even how to treat it. So, for all intensive purposes, if you hear this word from a doctor, they haven’t diagnosed you with anything at all. It’s their way of saying: “we don’t know.” 

Unfortunately, a non-diagnosis like this can be incredibly frustrating for parents, particularly if it’s their kid who has the health issue. It could be causing them discomfort or the symptoms might seem to suggest something sinister. Here’s what to do if you find yourself in this situation.

Don’t Panic!

Nine times out of ten an undiagnosed health issue is going to be nothing. We can look at the example of blackouts. Your child might be having an issue with every so often almost losing consciousness. When speaking about it with you, they might have described the world going dark and their muscles feeling weak. Immediately, you’re jumping to horrific conclusions from a brain tumor to a serious mental condition. However, this symptom can also be caused by a growth spurt. If kids are growing at a phenomenal rate, it can cause an issue like this, so there’s no need to always jump to the worst conclusion. Simply bring it up with your Pediatrician. 

It Could Be An Allergy

Doctors can’t always diagnose an issue as an allergy, and they certainly won’t be able to tell you what’s the cause of the reaction. That’s why you need to speak with allergy specialists. An allergy can present itself in very weird and wonderful ways from a rash to hair loss to a fever. It’s enough to scare any parent half to death but once you figure out what your kid is allergic to you’ve already won half the battle. Let’s just hope it’s not the beloved family pup. 

It Will Probably Go Away By Itself

Most medical symptoms do disappear without any help from a doctor or even medicine within about two weeks. That’s why if symptoms aren’t changing or getting worse you should wait about two weeks before you go and consult a doctor. The chances are that it’s nothing and there are lots of examples of things on the body that popup for basically no reason at all like petai. These are little red dots about the size of pinpricks that can pop up for a variety of reasons and are hardly ever sinister. For instance, a few months back my son had little warts popping up all over his body and I could not figure them out, but it turned out to only be harmless molluscum warts which are very common and no big deal. They go away on their own and don’t stick around for long. Whew! I was really beginning to worry about them. So in cases like this, it’s best to not freak out right away. 

As you can see then, an undiagnosed health issue even for your child doesn’t need to send your blood pressure skyrocketing. Stay calm and remember that most medical issues have simple explanations even if they can’t be diagnosed straight away. If in doubt make sure you speak to a second doctor. It’s always a good idea to get a second opinion because while one doctor might be stumped another might know exactly what’s causing the issue.

Stay calm and mom on!

A collaboration 🙂

Love, Jess XO