I’m officially on Bloglovin!

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Hey mamas!

I just wanted to announce that you can now follow me on Bloglovin! Yayyy!!! As a blogger it’s important to get your content out there in any and every way possible, and I’m excited to now have a new platform where you can find me! So what are you waiitng for? Hit that follow link and follow me! Let’s get connected and share with each other than the amazeballs place that is Bloglovin!

Oh, and don’t forget! Put your name and email into that subscription box that’s right at the top to your left! It would make my heart do a little jig if you did! We moms need to stick together and support one another so please subscribe to my blog, follow me on Bloglovin, like, comment and share!!! (rockstar pose)

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So much love to you! Thanks mamas!

PS: I have a new post about something really interesting and out of the box coming later this week, so keep an eye out!

Your Girl, Jess XO

How To Overcome Single Mom Guilt

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Hey hey there mamas!
It’s me again, your girl Jess and I have come with some solace for that heavy guilt we all deal with daily as stressed-out single moms and how to overcome.

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Being a single mom is tough, tougher than most of us like to admit, and it comes with guilt over things like the feeling we are not enough for our children, or we can’t provide enough for them on our own. Then there are other things as well that cross our minds as we try to sleep at night. But don’t worry momma, I am here to help you…and me to overcome that guilt because it’s not necessary.

When someone says to you “I’m sorry” or makes you feel shame for being a single mom, just take it stride. Many people out there still throw judgment, and criticism towards us for raising our babies on our own.  Don’t let their ignorance or lack of understanding make you feel like you’re doing something wrong or bad. You are so strong, brave and doing what is best. You are doing your job as a mom and you know what? You’re a superhero! Don’t let anyone take that truth away from you.

No matter what, your kids will hate you or disagree on how you chose to raise them. It’s normal. It’s harsh but totally true. At some point, your kid/s will hate you. Or at least, say they do. So when your bratty toddler or teenager is making you feel like scum but saying or doing hurtful things and you feel tempted to believe that you are a bad mom and that doing this alone is just not working…it’s OK. This happens to every mom every day. It’s not you, typically it’s them and they will get over it and someday thank you and appreciate all your hard efforts. So go get a massage from a hot shirtless masseuse and remember that this is a normal part of parenting. Don’t let their snotty little attitudes bring ya down.

You can only do the best you can and that is always good enough. To further drive this point home, you really can only do so much and that is always enough for your kiddo/s. Whether it seems that way or not, it really is.  As long as everyone is provided for, happy and loved, then that’s what’s most important. You can do that, so don’t worry. They’ll be fine. 🙂

Find your strength as a single mom and let it empower you! You can do it and you will. Ready to wear your super mom cape yet?

Have hope that it will all turn out to be alright. Just trust yourself. You were made to be a mother and your instincts and heart will guide you.  Take it one day at a time if you have to, believe me, I do!  Focus on getting through today and let tomorrow worry for itself. No need to stress over things that haven’t happened yet!

Don’t blame yourself or feel any guilt over being a single parent. Most of us did not choose it, and if you did then hey, more power to ya mama! You got this girl, No worries! 😉

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Keep your chin up beautiful!

Love Jess XO

The Sunshine Blogger Award!

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Hey hey mamas!

I’m so excited and honored to be a winner of the amazing Sunshine Blogger Award!
The Sunshine Blogger Award is given to bloggers by other bloggers who are creative, positive, and inspiring.

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All winners of the award must answers questions given to them by the blogger who nominated them, so here are my answers Gemma!

  1. What made you choose your topic in blogging? As a single mom, I find support a very difficult and almost non-existent thing. So I wanted to write about things other single moms could relate to as well as offering advice, tips and support directly from my own experiences.
    2. What motto do you live by? I don’t have one.
    3. What is the biggest challenge you had to overcome while starting your blog? Making the time for it. Being a single mom who homeschools and manages an online business finding the time to write content has been really hard, but now that I have no clients in my VA biz, I am finding more time to write which has been great.
    4. If you had the opportunity to interview anyone you like and feature them who would it be? Johnny Depp. Because he’s a true artist. He has so much creativity and passion and he’s such an incredible man. I’d love to just listen to him talk, tell stories and answer questions.
    5. Who is your favorite blogger? I don’t guess I have one because I don’t follow any haha.
    6. If given the opportunity to mentor a new blogger, what single piece of advice would you give them? Be uniquely yourself. Don’t try to copy anyone else, or be fake. Just be you and if people follow then they will follow.
    7. What is something interesting that most people don’t know about you? I am an obsessive T.V watcher! Every evening and into the wee hours of the morning I am in front of my T.V with snacks and tea, either watching the latest episode of my newest show obsession or binging an oldie but goodie that I’ve watched a million times before.  I love my shows!
    8. You have a chance to replay your childhood game/video game. What would it be? I never really played games growing up, I wasn’t that kind of kid. But if I have to pick something, I guess I’d say Pogs. Who remembers those!?
    9. Name a blogger you would love to collaborate with. I don’t know any 🙁
    10. What would you like to achieve by end of 2017? Successfully earning an income. Try as I might, money just doesn’t grow on any of my trees. Also, I have a goal of finishing the first draft of the personal novel I have been writing for the last 3 years.
    11. What would you like to tell your readers? That even though times may be tough, and you may feel alone in your journey that you are never alone. I am here to be your friend and I hope you subscribe to my blog so we can stay connected!

Again a huge thank you to Gemma Horlock for my nomination! You should check out Gemma’s blog here!

If you are a blogger and you’d like to be nominated by me to receive The Sunshine Blogger Award then subscribe to my blog by putting in your email in the little subscribe box up at the top of this page! (or if you’re on mobile just leave a comment and include your blog URL 😉 ) All the details and instructions, if you are chosen, will be emailed to you! The 11 nominees will be chosen on June 5th!

Bloggers unite! Thank you and love to all you mommas!
Jess XO

The Perfect Mother’s Day Gift

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Hey mamas,

So Mother’s Day is just around the corner, and if you haven’t picked out the perfect gift for your mom yet then I have something you may be very interested in! My friends over at StoryWorth have a special Mother’s Day sale going on! So I thought I would tell you about something they offer that makes the absolute perfect Mother’s Day gift.

If you’ve never heard of StoryWorth they have a really neat gift idea that helps you learn more about your mom! So, you probably never knew about your Mom’s first crush, the time she fought City Hall to save the library, or her brief stint in the marching band. StoryWorth makes it easy and fun for her to share stories with loved ones every week. At the end of the year, she’ll get them all bound in a beautiful hardcover book. (You can start right away, which means this is a great last-minute gift too.) Strengthen your bond as you get to know her in a whole new way! Doesn’t that sound perfect? 

 

Here’s how it works:

  1. Each week, we send her questions you’ve never thought to ask.
  2. She writes a story each week, which is shared with you. (She can also record it.)
  3. A year’s worth of stories are bound into a beautiful keepsake book.

Don’t miss out on helping your mom create something she is sure to love and cherish for years to come using StoryWorth. Hey, you can even do this for yourself! You deserve a totally awesome gift too! Go check it out and snag $20 off your order! Click here to head on over.  I just totally saved your Mother’s Day. You’re welcome, you know I’ve always got your back. 😉

I hope all you fabulous mamas have a wonderful Mother’s Day!

Love, Jess XO

 

10 Things To Never Say To A Single Mom

Hey there sexy mamas!
So, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a while becasue I’ve had it up to wazoo with dealing with the dumb things people can say. I’m sure all these things have been said to you and as a single mom doesn’t it just make you want to strangle the person? Ok…maybe that’s just me…I tend to have a violent imagination haha…so I have made a list of 10 things to never say to a single mom. Let’s get into this.
  1. Get a sitter.

Yeah, I’m just going to leave my kid with some random stranger or dump them on a friend or relative so I can go hang out with you. Sure. Oh, and I’ll be pulling money out from my arse to pay them as well. Sounds terrific. See you at 8. Do people actually expect a single mother to just have someone available at all times to watch their kid so they can just take off whenever? Look, I am taking care of my child/ren ALONE. I cannot and will not be going out with you tonight. Don’t be dumb.
2.Where’s the dad? What happened?

This question makes me want to show them my inner ghetto attitude with a very nasty “that aint none ya business!” But instead I just answer them leaving out all the horrific and angering details even though it isn’t any of their business. My kid’s dad is in Acapulco working as a spy for the Government protecting us from the aliens if you must know, becasue why else would he not be in his kids life?
3. Doesn’t the dad help? Does he get them?

Why do people even ask this? When they look at a single mom what makes them think to ask if the dad helps out or sees them sometimes? Not all separated families co-parent. Most actually don’t. So don’t be nosy.
4. Do they have different dads?

If you have more then one child I’m sure you’ve been asked this. It’s frustrating isn’t it? I can’t believe people actually ask this. Just don’t.
5. No statistics.

People love quoting statistics to us. Like as if they think telling us facts which are mostly wrong will make us change our entire lives for the better. Seriously? If you are not a single parent, then don’t you dare quote statistics to me and think you’re being helpful. You’re not.

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6. You single moms.

Never ever start off a conversion by saying “you single moms” umm…excuse me? Us single moms? Watch it sweetie. It’s just like saying all you hat wearers. Really?
7.I feel like a single mom too.

Ok, let’s get something straight. If you are married, are in a relationship or something to that effect then no, you cannot say that you relate to being a single mom in any way. Women are always saying, my husband works all the time, or he travels a lot or my boyfriend doesn’t help with my kids so I feel like a single mom too. You’re kidding me right? No honey, you have no clue what being a real single mom is like. So appreciate the man you have in your life and shut your mouth.
8. How do you do it alone?

How do you ask? Really now. Umm well, the same way any other mom on the planet does it. By loving my child/ren with all my heart and doing my best for them. I am perfectly capable and you should believe that I am too. I just simply do it. There isn’t a how. There is no single mom manual. Love is all you need.
9. Poor kid, he/she doesn’t have a dad.

I’m sorry? Did I hear you correctly? My poor kid? That’s hilarious. There is nothing poor or sad about my kid not having a dad. My son is lucky and better off to not have his dad in the picture. As long as a child is loved, then no. They are not poor and they are not missing out on anything.
10. I’m sorry.

When someone tells me they are sorry that I’m a single mom I seriously don’t understand. You’re sorry for….what? Please explain why it’s so awful that I have beautiful kids that I get to take care of and love. I don’t know what it is you feel so sorry for but, I don’t accept your apology. I would however, love to accept a coffee.

I hope this has opened your eyes a bit and taught you how to respond to these ridiculous questions or what not to say to any single mom you come across. We are in this together.  On your own, but never alone. 😉

Love your girl, Jess XO

Paperless Post Review

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My Personal Review Of Paperless Post

Hey hey mamas! I’ve got something for you today that I know will come in handy.  For us busy moms, sometimes it’s hard to make the time to send out cards or invites when they need to be sent out. Going out to find just the right card, writing what needs to be said inside and then remembering to actually mail it? UGG. Well, that’s where Paperless Post comes in!

If you are not already familiar with Paperless Post it’s an awesome website where you can send beautifully designed cards, invitations or stationery through email! You can also have them sent through traditional mail as well straight from the site! Using either bought credits or regular USD, both of which are quite affordable, you can create and send out one of a kind cards.

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So, I couldn’t wait to try it out and see what kind of cards I could send.  There were a few birthday’s this month so I was ready to try out Paperless Post to send them. My first impression of the site was how clean, simple and easy to navigate it is. I jumped right in and immediately found the perfect birthday cards to send to our group of kids at church who all had birthdays this month. My only issue was it took me a while to figure out how to put in the text for the inside of the cards. It doesn’t tell you how to do this so you kind of have to click around and figure things out for yourself, but once I got the hang of it I didn’t have any further problems. Go ahead and check out their lovely birthday cards.

I also found a really sweet thank you card to send to my aunt who sent us a special gift for Easter, and one of the really cool things about using their e-card service is the person receiving your card and send you a thank you note right back free of charge! My aunt sent her reply right back and I was like “wow!” I love that.

I also took the time to browse around at all the designs for all their available cards and invitations. They have some really neat ones! This will definitely come in handy for my son’s next birthday! Overall I found the site to be fairly easy to use after a few minutes of exploration, all of their products including their customizable stationary is beautifully designed, it’s all affordable to use and so convenient! I enjoyed using their e-card service and give the site an A+! I will definitely be using them again.

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So if you are needing to send out some birthday cards, get well cards, or party invites, this is the place! Go have a look at their amazing invitations for yourself!

Don’t forget to tell them Jess sent ya 😉

Catch you lovely mamas next time!

Jess XO

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Spring Cleaning Hacks For Moms

                                                                        Spring Cleaning Time!

Hey sexy mamas! Spring has officially sprung so I thought I would put together some really nifty spring cleaning hacks for all you busy stressed out mamas who could use a hand when it comes to keeping the house clean and organized. I know I sure could! So without further ado, let’s get into this.

 

  • Hack #1:  If you have a microfiber couch, this is going to save it. Seriously. For all the dirt, stains, pet hair and all around uck that lives on your couch, here is a genius way to get it back to looking brand new and like you don’t have any kids living with you! Just mix 1 part rubbing alcohol and 1 part water in a spray bottle, spritz all over your couch, focusing on the dirty spots then take a clean white sponge and wipe away all the mess. Lastly, to spruce it all up and make it look new, once the couch is dry take a bristle brush and go over all the microfibers to fluff.  Bam! Clean and new looking couch! 😉

 

  • Hack #2: You probably know that your dishwasher and washing machine can be used to sanitize yucky things, but do you actually do it? I’m guessing your answer is no….well, it’s time to start! This is perfect for sanitizing all those germy toys after your kids have been sick, or smashed them in the mud, spilled juice etc or even the drooly baby toys or pet toys.  So, for the hard plastic toys that will be safe for the dishwasher, just toss them in, no detergent needed and put on sanitize.  For the plush and softer toys, stuffed animals etc, just toss them into the washer on its sanitize mode. Easy peasy!

 

  • Hack #3: Life with kids equals carpet stains, that’s just how it is. No matter how hard we try, we can’t escape the messes and accidents that those little monsters bring with them. So, to battle, the stains left behind, here is a hack that is sure to bring up the stains leaving your carpet fresh and clean….for like 5 seconds right? Mix water and vinegar into a spray bottle and soak the area with the stain, then place a damp cloth over the spot.  Now take an iron…yes, an iron, and place on top of the cloth on the steam setting and let it sit on the spot for about half a minute. Then take off the iron, and lift up the cloth to reveal the stain gone! Pure magic!

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  • Hack #4: Got greasy spills on your kid’s clothes? No worries! It’s not ruined forever if you have chalk handy! Just grab a piece of white chalk, it has to be white and rub it all over the greasy spot then just toss it into the wash as usual. The chalk will absorb all the grease to help take it all out in the wash. Flippin’ brilliant!

 

  • Hack #5: When spring cleaning time comes, organization is key. Sorting through outgrown clothes, the toys they no longer play with and all the random junk your house accumulates, it’s good to organize everything into separate boxes for easier sorting, decision making and storage.  Dedicate a clean storage bin to each item of things you are cleaning out in your house, one box for the clothes to donate or store away, one for the toys, and so on. Having clear bins is helpful because you can see exactly what’s in each box without having to label anything. It makes spring cleaning so much less stressful and you can easily organize and store all the stuff you’re cleaning out. These bins right here are perfect!

Ok mamas, now you’re ready to rock n’ roll and tackle your spring cleaning! Hope I’ve helped to make it less of a dreaded chore! Enjoy the hacks, may they bring you much peace.

Love, Jess XO